This particular banker knew the day was coming for his dream golf outing, so he went to the course every day after work (which would be 3:00 pm….sorry, had to get that jab in) and practiced like there was no tomorrow. He did not want to embarrass himself when he played with Arnold.
When the day came, he showed up and was greeted by Arnold Palmer and they set out to play their round of golf. The banker played up to his best and actually beat his own former low score on this particular course. Of course, Arnold still handily beat him, but not to the point of humiliation.
As they walked back to the club house, the banker looked over to Arnold and said, “You know, Arnold, some of my best shots were as good as your shots back there. Maybe I could still make the PGA; what do you think?” To which Arnold replied, “It’s not how good your good shots are that is keeping you from being a professional golfer…..it’s how bad your bad shots are.”
Now I relate this story not for golfing purposes (since I can’t stand watching or playing the game), but to make a very important point. Almost everything in life has both good sides and bad sides. For example, you see beautiful, rich, glamorous movie stars that marry other beautiful, rich, glamorous movie stars and then several (fill in the blank with days, weeks, years) later, they divorce.
I don’t know how anyone else feels, but my feeling on the subject is this: “It’s not how good the good parts are (ANYONE can put up with the good stuff….the beauty, the wealth, the glamour…..that’s SO easy) but it is how BAD the bad parts are! If they are a psychotic, neurotic whiner with the mental depth of a baby pool, who will put up with that for very long?
Sometimes I watch the beginning of these reality dating shows on primetime and wonder, “Why can’t these apparently attractive, educated, successful people find someone to date and/or marry without subjecting themselves to being humiliated on national TV?” Then I watch for a few minutes and say, “OHHHH, that’s the reason why they can’t find someone to date….they are (fill in the blank) freaks!”
So you see, in almost every area of life, it’s not how good the good parts are….it’s how bad the bad parts are that really matter.
Now let’s get back to the topic at hand….starting/buying/running your own small business. It is not how good the good parts are (I get to be my own boss, no cap on my income, get to be a big shot in my hometown, my picture is in the paper for interviews, etc.) with running your own business. Anyone could handle that. It is how bad the bad parts are (it is my job to bring in the sales, constantly worrying about having enough money to meet payroll, putting up with employees who act like children, customers who are rude, long hours, etc.) that keeps people from getting into, and staying in, business for themselves.
Granted, life is not easy and you cannot simply avoid the bad parts because they are unpleasant. But we each have to “choose our poison” when it comes to deciding which bad parts that we can live with. That is the key. Since we cannot completely avoid all the bad stuff, we at least have to come to grips with what sort of bad stuff we are at least willing to tolerate.
I will use myself as an example with something many of us can relate to….marriage. My spouse knows there are both good things about me and bad things about me. Each of us who is married can probably list, with relative ease, the good things and bad things about our spouse. Since roughly 50% of all marriages end in divorce, there are many people who say, “I will not get married because half of all marriages end in divorce.” What they fail to see is there are a lot of extremely happy marriages and these people have an unbreakable bond that each partner would die for, literally. I know of marriages that are that strong.
Being married to someone is not all strawberries and champagne. But it is also the most fulfilling relationship known to humankind if it is done properly. My wife knows about my bad stuff and I know about hers….and we are both willing to live with the bad because the good FAR outweighs the bad. So we live contently with one another because even though we are not perfect (no one is), we certainly have much in common and we enjoy each other’s company and conversation, so the bad stuff is miniscule by comparison.
The same metaphor can be used for owning a business. There are things about owning a business that are about as pleasant as taking your dog for a walk and picking up their poop with a plastic bag. Nobody wants to do it, but if you don’t, you won’t like the end result. And when it is your business, it is your responsibility.
But the good news is, as the business owner, if you don’t want to pick up the poop, you can delegate that task to an employee. But remember, if the employee quits or doesn’t show up for work one day, you still have to pick up the poop.
