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How to… vs. Want to…

One of the greatest lies we tell ourselves is that to be successful, we have to know ”how-to” achieve the level of success we’re looking for. Fact of the matter is to be successful in anything we do in life, requires us to have the “want-to” and then ask “why do I want this to succeed?” Once we’ve asked ourselves what the intention is for us to succeed, we work towards strengthening our want-to, in order to know how-to.

If the want-to is strong enough, we’ll always find the how-to. Having a weak want-to on the inside, allows all the power to go to the outside, which leaves us feeling powerless. A weak internal want-to creates an exaggerated fear of the external forces, i.e. competition, economic conditions, lack of cash, employee conflict issues, etc…A behavioral change without action is utterly useless, because neither one is any good without the other.

When the desire or passion is absent, no system, regardless of how brilliant it may be, will work. Find the deep passion within you to want-to do something badly enough, and the how-to will always come.

Goals

carrie This entry was posted by Carrie Nicolini on Saturday, August 7th, 2010 at 5:14 AM

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  • http://www.writtenoffamerica.com Jerry Ashton

    An important and savvy reminder, Carrie.

    One of my early revelations of this principle came when I learned about the proper order of Be, Do, Have.

    As you pointed out, most people focus on the “Do” part. If I only DO the following things, I will HAVE the rewards, and then BE that successfull whatever that I want to represent.

    Others will say, if I simply “have” what is needed for success, if I HAVE that golf club, car, job, etc., I will DO the things successful people do and arrive!

    Couldn’t be more wrong.

    First, BE (which you define as “want to”) that which you are, DO those things that this sort of be-ing would do, and HAVE the rewards of that effort.

    Desire (a “want to”) is a powerful word which expresses the essence of us all. Just desire with all your heart…the DO and HAVE will take care of themselves.

    J – http://www.twitter.com/writtenoffusa