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Clarity accounts for nearly 80% of success and happiness. Lack of clarity leads to frustration and underachievement. Those with clear, written goals, accomplish far more in a shorter period of time than those without them. Everywhere and under all circumstances!

In fact, the three keys to high achievement are, “Clarity, Clarity, Clarity.”  Success in life is largely dependent upon how clear you are about what you really want.

The more you write and rewrite your goals and think about them, the clearer you will become about them.  And the more likely you are to do more things that are consistent with accomplishing them.

Experiencing an “A-ha” or a “light bulb” moment, is like discovering an important piece to a difficult puzzle.  It’s rejuvenating, motivating while adding new challenges and opportunities for learning and growth.

In order for a fresh idea to become fully developed, it requires more flashes of light and self reflection. The idea must be evaluated to determine if it’s worth pursuit and further cultivation. Things will have been overlooked, and you’ll find ways to make the idea better, or why a certain idea isn’t ready to fully pursue.

The quickest way to gain clarity is to simply take action! When we take action, we get immediate and direct feedback. We gain insight and great knowledge as we continue to work through a situation. Things happen rapidly these days and therefore, there’s not much time to contemplate starting a project.  It’s always better to take action and learn along the way, than to spend time over-engineering without ever seeing any results.  Taking action, provides many answers to questions we were previously uncertain about. This doesn’t mean jumping totally into the project, but it does mean knowing that no plan is totally set in stone.  A road map is essential, but don’t let the absence of having one prevent you from moving forward.

When working towards meeting personal needs, or maintaining relationships, it’s important to consider how big decisions impact other people in our life. Most often, a change in one area of life, will ultimately affect other areas and therefore, we need to consider any potential negative consequences. When it comes to getting clear about relationships, ask yourself, “How much does the relationship mean to me?” “How much does my personal goal mean to me?” Remembering that relationships are a major key to happiness, so be certain to gain clarity in how this area of your life will be impacted.

I love this time of year! We find ourselves in such a magical place. The “Season of Giving.”  At this special time of year people come together in the most unimaginable ways.  We actually take the time to stop and acknowledge the many things we have in our lives to be thankful for.  And, most importantly, we realize the importance of “giving.”

Bring joy to someone this holiday season and put a smile on their face, by performing an act of kindness. Any act. Many acts of kindness don’t cost a penny, but the benefits gained can be priceless.

Any one can accomplish an act of kindness during the Christmas season:

1. Call a friend or relative who you haven’t spoken to in a long time
2. Shovel the snow from your neighbor’s driveway and sidewalk
3. Offer to do some Christmas gift wrapping for someone
4. Volunteer some time to help serve meals at a local homeless shelter or food pantry
5. Offer to watch a neighbors pet while they’re away for the holiday
6. Donate new/used toys / clothing to charity, so others less fortunate can receiving something that will surely mean the world to them.
7. Gather some family, friends or neighbors together and go Christmas caroling in  the neighborhood or an assisted living center
8. Sit and “listen” to someone who needs a shoulder to lean on
9. Extend a smile to a clerk who looks like they could use one
10. Let others know how thankful you are to have them in your life

The original Christmas story is about the ultimate gift given for the purpose of changing the world. Regardless of your religious beliefs, consider spending time this holiday season finding ways to help others. Pay it forward and perform an act of kindness today.

Is there truth to the idea that many people choose a career path but need their own services?  A successful Psychologist studies others, helps them acknowledge, deal with and overcome the chains of the past, masking her own, similar struggles.  A drug addict injects and snorts his way to alienating everyone close to him, but recovers to become a poster child on the deadly consequences of drug addiction.  A huge financial investment guru creates great wealth for many, before going broke.

My twenties and thirties were spent in the corporate world of distribution.  In the late 90’s a group of us branched off to rapidly grow our own company from seven to over 300 employees.  I loved the culture this dynamic group of individuals created, collaborating with diverse minds, and leading others to achieve personal and professional goals.  We supported one another, bouncing ideas back and forth, listening and providing input and perspective.

The distribution industry was all I knew, and I thrived on working with large groups, experiencing success and failure with others.  When our company went out of business, I was lost and vulnerable, without a sense of purpose or direction as to “what was next.”  It wasn’t clear at the time, but it was the best thing that could have happened.  I had learned that our biggest strengths and skill-sets can, paradoxically, be our greatest personal points of weakness.

I started a business coaching practice to create opportunities for myself to help growing and or struggling companies avoid making some obvious (and not so obvious) mistakes we had made.  More importantly, I had a new found purpose in life, serving others, which would be worth any challenges that lie ahead.

Has it been easy?  Absolutely, unequivocally NOT!  We’re often drawn to things we fear most.  I could never have imagined working in an environment without the daily support and interaction of others, much less starting my own business.

Has it all been worth the risk?  Absolutely, unequivocally YES!  The greater my fears become, the more certain I am that I’m on the right path. What’s more, the persevering desire I have to serve others by providing them with the support, guidance and clarity without judgment, is what many individuals and businesses want and need, in order to help them breakthrough their own fears to get the desired results they want.

It doesn’t seem like it would be true, in that by slowing down we’d get more done. But it is true and it does work. Every day you do it, you will get more done. Every day as you experiment with slowing down and focusing on doing what’s most important, the better understanding you’ll have about the truth behind the legendary story of the tortoise and the hare.

Think of it this way, if you’re on the wrong road, it doesn’t matter how good you get at traveling faster down that road because it still is and always will be the WRONG ROAD.

On the flip side, when you take whatever time is needed to think some major (or not) personal or business decision through with a clear, uncluttered mind, and act accordingly with your complete and only focus being on “doing it right the first time,” the sooner you’re able to cross it off the list as complete and move on to the next priority.

Those who recognize the value of slowing themselves down, soon realize how quickly it speeds up their success. When they slow down and focus on that next small step ahead of them and TAKE THAT STEP, they’re surprised at how their whole world changes by doing that.

Every little achievement raises the self confidence. As your confidence increases, your achievements become greater and greater. The real success in reaching any goal is achieved by breaking down a plan into small steps to take along the way, and then start taking them. With each of these steps your self-esteem rises. In the end, the goal itself isn’t even as important as the huge strides you’ve made in self-confidence and self-respect along the way. Because of the increased self-confidence and self-respect, the next challenge that comes your way, will be that much easier to handle. It’s those small steps that build the self-confidence.